Series Introduction
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There is a quiet crisis happening in relationships and marriages today.
Not always loud enough to draw attention.
Not dramatic enough to raise alarms.
But painful enough to leave many hearts weary, confused, and disconnected.
Many couples still pray.
Many still attend church.
Many still say, “I love you.”
Yet love feels distant.
Not because God has failed—but because love has slowly been redefined.
This series was born out of real conversations with real people who love God sincerely, yet feel unsure, disconnected, or spiritually conflicted in their relationships. It is not written to accuse, shame, or condemn—but to call hearts back to truth.
Over the next three weeks, we will journey together through Scripture, story, and reflection to rediscover what the Bible really teaches about love—beyond feelings, beyond culture, and beyond convenience.
This is an invitation:
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to reflect honestly
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to repent humbly
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to surrender deeply
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and to allow God to restore what emotions alone could not sustain
Come with an open heart.
Come willing to listen.
Come ready to let God redefine love again.
Part 1: When Feelings Fade — The Lie We Believed About Love
She didn’t cry at first.
She stared at the floor, gently twisting her wedding ring, as though the motion might awaken something that had gone quiet inside her.
“I still love him,” she said softly.
“But I don’t feel in love anymore.”
Those words carry more weight than we often admit. They are spoken in counseling rooms, whispered in prayers, and echoed in the hearts of many believers who never imagined they would feel this way.
And almost always, they are followed by the same silent questions:
Did I miss God?
Did I marry the wrong person?
Is this what love is supposed to feel like?
When Feelings Became the Measure of Love
Somewhere along the way, we allowed culture to disciple us more than Scripture.
We were taught that love is confirmed by excitement.
That passion is proof of purpose.
That ease is evidence of God’s will.
So when marriage becomes demanding…
When dating requires patience…
When emotions fluctuate…
We assume something is wrong.
But the Bible never promised love would always feel good.
It promised love would be faithful.
“There is a way that appears right, but in the end it leads to death.”
— Proverbs 14:12
What “feels right” is not always what is rooted in truth.
The Quiet Drift No One Warned Us About
Most relationships don’t break suddenly.
They drift—slowly and quietly.
Prayers become shorter.
Conversations become practical, not personal.
Grace becomes conditional.
Forgiveness becomes delayed.
Two people still share space, routines, and responsibilities—but their hearts grow guarded.
And instead of asking, “Lord, what are You teaching us in this season?”
We ask, “Why doesn’t this feel the same anymore?”
Feelings were never meant to lead love.
They were meant to respond to obedience.
Love Was Never Meant to Be Easy—It Was Meant to Be True
The Bible does not define love by emotion, but by action.
Love shows up when patience is tested.
Love remains when disappointment is real.
Love chooses commitment when walking away would feel easier.
This doesn’t mean ignoring pain or excusing harm.
It means understanding that mature love requires spiritual depth, not emotional dependency.
When feelings fade, it is not always a signal to leave.
Often, it is an invitation to grow.
A Gentle Awakening
The Holy Spirit does not convict to crush—He convicts to restore.
Conviction whispers:
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Love is more than what you feel.
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Covenant matters.
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I am still at work here.
When we allow feelings to become our compass, we wander.
When we allow God to lead, even hard seasons become holy ground.
A Moment of Reflection
Before asking:
“Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”
Ask:
“Have I been loving the way God calls me to love?”
This question is not meant to shame you.
It is meant to awaken you.
And awakening is always the first step toward healing.
Closing Prayer (Week 1 – Personal Reflection)
Lord,
Search my heart gently and truthfully.
Show me where I allowed feelings to lead instead of faith.
Reveal any pride, fear, or misunderstanding I have carried about love.
Teach me Your definition of love—one rooted in truth, obedience, and surrender.
Prepare my heart for what You want to restore.
I am listening.
I am willing.
Amen.
Next Week: Part 2 — Love That Costs: Why Biblical Love Requires Death to Self
If you feel stirred, unsettled, or reflective after reading this—do not rush past it.
God often begins His deepest work in the quiet discomfort of truth.
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